The Black Belt Affair
Chapter 3: Ashley thrives while Jacob grapples with new insecurities.
Iron Grip Academy quickly became a fixture in their lives, with Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays carved out of their evening schedule, previously filled with streaming shows neither would remember the next day. The gym’s raw intensity seeped into Ashley’s consciousness, haunting her thoughts during otherwise mundane workdays. She found herself revisiting techniques at her desk, fingers absently gripping phantom lapels while designing marketing materials for vitamin supplements and local restaurants.
Two weeks in, Jacob and Ashley stood at the front of the class, with new white belts wrapped around their waists, replacing the loaner belts they’d fumbled with during their first sessions. Ashley’s fit snugly, the crisp fabric still smelling of the packaging it had come in. Jacob’s hung slightly askew despite his careful efforts to tie it properly.
“Stop fidgeting,” Ashley whispered as they lined up for warm-ups. “It looks fine.”
“It keeps coming loose on the left side,” Jacob muttered, adjusting the knot for the third time.
Behind them, Carlos’s voice rang out across the mats. “Line up by rank! Let’s start with jogging.”
The warm-ups began, the sound of dozens of bare feet slapping against the mats, controlled breathing, the occasional grunt of effort. Ashley fell into the pace easily, her body adapting faster than she’d expected. Beside her, Jacob moved with more determination, his breath coming in controlled bursts as he pushed himself to keep up.
“Remember to breathe through your nose,” Carlos instructed, jogging alongside the group, seemingly immune to the exertion that had some already glistening with sweat. “Control your breath, control your body. Control your body, control your mind.”
His eyes met Ashley’s briefly as he passed, and she felt a flutter in her stomach. She’d noticed him watching her during previous classes, nothing inappropriate, just an evaluating gaze that tracked her progress. She told herself it was professional interest in a promising student, nothing more. But the flutter persisted.
After the sixth class, Carlos stopped her as she was leaving.
“Your hip escapes are improving,” he said. “But you’re still hesitating before you bridge. The split-second delay gives your opponent time to adjust.”
Ashley nodded, suddenly conscious of the sweat dampening her hairline, the flush she could feel spreading across her cheeks. “I think I’m overthinking it.”
Carlos smiled, a brief, understated gesture that transformed his stern features. “The mind is both our greatest asset and our greatest obstacle in jiu-jitsu. You need to get out of your head and into your body.” He tapped his temple, then placed his hand lightly on his own chest. “Stop thinking and start feeling.”
Stop thinking and start feeling. As if it were that simple.
But perhaps it was, at least on the mats. By their fourth week, Ashley found herself moving more intuitively during drills, her body responding to pressure and opportunity without conscious calculation. When Carlos partnered her with a muscular blue belt woman for positional sparring, Ashley surprised both herself and her opponent by executing a smooth sweep, reversing their positions just as Carlos had demonstrated earlier.
“Beautiful!” Carlos called from across the room, where he was correcting another student’s technique. “That’s exactly what I’m talking about. Timing and leverage, not strength.”
The blue belt woman, Melissa, gave Ashley a grudging nod of approval before they reset. “Not bad for a white belt. Especially one who looks like she belongs in a Lululemon ad, not a BJJ gym.”
The backhanded compliment stung, but Ashley kept her expression neutral. “Thanks. I think.”
Melissa’s eyes narrowed slightly. “Just don’t get too comfortable. This isn’t like those cardio kickboxing classes where they hand out gold stars for showing up. Jiu-jitsu has a way of humbling people who think they’re naturals.”
Before Ashley could respond, Carlos appeared beside them. “Switch positions,” he instructed. “Melissa on bottom this time. Ashley, remember that control comes before submission. Don’t rush.”
As they continued drilling, Ashley caught glimpses of Jacob across the room, paired with a lanky teenager who moved with the confidence of someone who’d been training for years despite his youth. Jacob’s face was a mask of concentration as he worked to replicate the armbar Carlos had demonstrated, his movements stiff but improving with each repetition.
Later, when the class broke into free sparring sessions, Carlos gestured for Jacob to join him on the mat.
“Let’s see how you’re progressing,” he said, dropping into a seated position, inviting Jacob to engage.
Ashley paused her own sparring to watch, a knot of anxiety forming in her stomach. Jacob approached cautiously, clearly intimidated but determined. They began to grapple, and for a moment, Jacob managed to maintain a defensive posture. Then Carlos shifted his weight, creating a distraction with one hand, and within seconds, Jacob was flat on his back, Carlos mounted solidly on his chest.
“Don’t push directly against strength,” Carlos instructed, his voice carrying across the gym. “Create angles. Misdirect.” He transitioned smoothly into an armbar, bending Jacob’s arm at a controlled but uncomfortable angle. Jacob tapped quickly.
“Again,” Carlos said, releasing him and returning to his starting position.
Jacob’s second attempt ended even more quickly, with Carlos catching him in a tight triangle choke. The third attempt wasn’t much better. By the fourth, Jacob’s face was flushed with a mixture of exertion and embarrassment, his hair plastered to his forehead, his gi darkened with sweat.
“You’re getting tense,” Carlos observed, standing up and offering Jacob a hand. “Tension wastes energy. You need to stay relaxed until the moment you explode. Like a cat. Loose until it pounces.”
Jacob nodded, accepting the hand up. “Right. Loose. Got it.” His voice betrayed his frustration, though he tried to mask it with a smile.
“Everyone progresses at their own pace,” Carlos said. “Focus on your journey, not on comparing yourself to others.” His eyes flicked briefly to Ashley, then back to Jacob. “Your wife has natural athleticism from her gymnastics background. You’re building from a different foundation. Be patient with yourself.”
The advice was sound, delivered without condescension, yet Ashley saw a flash of annoyance on Jacob’s face. Later, in the car, he was quieter than usual, his gaze fixed on the road ahead.
“You did great tonight,” Ashley offered, breaking the silence.
Jacob glanced at her. “You don’t have to do that.”
“Do what?”
“The encouraging wife thing. I know I looked like a mess out there.”
Ashley reached across to touch his arm. “That’s not true. You’re getting better every class.”
“At the rate I’m improving, I’ll be a decent white belt in about… ten years.” He sighed. “Meanwhile, Carlos is practically scouting you for the competition team.”
There was an edge to his voice that Ashley hadn’t heard before, not quite jealousy, but something close to it. A recognition of imbalance.
“He’s just being a good instructor,” she said. “And I’m not that good. I got swept by that teenage girl today so hard I think I left a sweat angel on the mat.”
“I didn’t see that.”
“That’s because you were too busy learning from the master himself.” She pitched her voice deeper, mimicking Carlos’s accent. “Create angles. Misdirect. Be like water, flowing around obstacles.”
Jacob laughed. “Is that supposed to be Carlos? He sounds like a Spanish Yoda.”
“A Spanish Yoda who could fold either of us into a pretzel without breaking a sweat.”
The humor dissipated the awkwardness, but as they pulled into their apartment complex, Ashley found herself wondering about the subtle shift she’d felt, the hint of competitiveness where there had never been any before, the new awareness of physical capability as a measuring stick between them.
Their fifth week at Iron Grip introduced them to another dimension of jiu-jitsu culture, the social one. After Friday’s class, Liz approached them as they were gathering their bags.
“A bunch of us are grabbing beers at The Anchor,” she said, nodding toward a group of students chatting near the front desk. “You two should come. Friday night post-training drinks.”
Jacob glanced at Ashley, uncertainty in his expression. “We were going to order in and watch that new sci-fi series-”
“Which will still be there tomorrow,” Ashley interjected, surprising herself with her eagerness. “Let’s go. It’ll be fun to get to know people outside of trying to choke each other.”
The Anchor turned out to be a divey bar two blocks from the gym, its walls adorned with nautical paraphernalia and signed photographs of local fighters. Three tables had been pushed together to accommodate the Iron Grip crew, a mix of white belts, blue belts, and a few higher ranks, all now dressed in street clothes instead of gis, though Ashley could still identify who was who.
Jacob integrated himself into a conversation with two other white belt men, a firefighter named Mike and a high school science teacher called Dan, who seemed to share his experience of being perpetual demonstration dummies. Their good-natured complaints about bruised ribs and the impossibility of escaping side control soon had Jacob relaxing.
Ashley found herself seated next to Liz, who nursed a beer with the same intentionality she brought to drilling techniques.
“So,” Liz said, “what made you guys decide to try jiu-jitsu? Most couples I know can barely agree on what to watch on Netflix, let alone voluntarily sign up to get sweaty and uncomfortable together.”
Ashley smiled, taking a sip of her mojito. “It was my idea, actually. I was feeling… I don’t know, restless? Like we were stuck in a rut.”
“And Jacob just went along with it?”
“He’s a good sport. Always has been.”
“Sounds like love bullshit.”
“Pretty much.” Ashley smiled. “He’s always been supportive of my ideas, even the ones that suck.”
Liz nodded, her gaze drifting to where Jacob was animatedly explaining something to Mike and Dan, his hands gesturing in the same way they did when he talked about particularly elegant code solutions.
“He seems like a good guy,” Liz said. “Not everyone would put themselves out there like that, especially in a place like Iron Grip. Carlos doesn’t exactly go easy on the newbies.”
“I’ve noticed,” Ashley said dryly.
“Carlos is…” Liz paused, considering her words. “Well, you’ve probably figured out he’s intense. Brilliant at jiu-jitsu, but not always the most… emotionally intelligent instructor.”
Something in Liz’s tone made Ashley curious. “You’ve known him a while?”
“Since he opened the gym three years ago. I was one of his first students.” Liz took another sip of beer. “He’s a great teacher if you’re the type of student he respects. Direct, no bullshit, expects your full commitment. But he can be hard on people who don’t progress the way he thinks they should.”
Ashley thought about the way Carlos had used Jacob repeatedly for demonstrations, the subtle edge in his “guidance” that bordered on highlighting Jacob’s shortcomings. “Has he always been like that?”
“More or less. He’s mellowed some since the early days, believe it or not.” Liz smiled. “But he’s still Carlos. Competitive to his core, convinced he’s always right, and way too aware of the effect he has on women.”
Ashley felt heat rise to her cheeks, and she quickly took another sip of her drink to hide her reaction. “What do you mean?”
Liz’s eyes narrowed slightly, assessing. “Come on. You’ve seen it. The way some of the women in class hang on his every word? Man’s got a waiting list of willing training partners, if you know what I mean.”
“Oh. I hadn’t really noticed.”
Liz’s expression suggested she didn’t entirely believe her. “Well, consider yourself warned. Carlos is a fantastic jiu-jitsu instructor, but his off-mat reputation is more… complicated. Especially when it comes to his female students.” She shrugged, her tone lightening. “Anyway, enough about the gym drama. Tell me what you do in the real world, when you’re not getting crushed by sweaty strangers.”
The conversation shifted to work, hobbies, the best restaurants in the area, but Liz’s words remained in Ashley’s mind, coloring her perception. When Carlos walked into the bar half an hour later, a ripple of awareness seemed to move through the group. Several people called out greetings, shifting to make space for him.
Carlos moved with the same control he displayed on the mats, his presence somehow larger than his already imposing physical frame. He wore dark jeans and a fitted black button-down that accentuated his broad shoulders and tapered waist. His gaze swept the table, acknowledging each person with a nod or brief greeting. When his eyes met Ashley’s, she felt that now-familiar flutter in her stomach, followed immediately by a prickle of self-consciousness, Liz’s warning fresh in her mind.
“Ashley, Jacob,” Carlos said, inclining his head slightly as he passed their section of the table. “Good to see my newest students integrating into the Iron Grip family.”
His hand brushed lightly across Ashley’s shoulder as he moved to the far end of the table, the contact so brief she might have imagined it. She glanced quickly at Jacob, but he was engrossed in conversation with Mike, apparently not having noticed the fleeting touch or the way it had sent a jolt of something through her.
The evening continued, the alcohol and shared experiences of the gym creating a comfortable camaraderie. Ashley found herself genuinely enjoying the company, laughing at stories of spectacular jiu-jitsu fails and training mishaps. Occasionally, she would catch Carlos looking in her direction, his expression unreadable. Once, when their eyes met, he raised his glass slightly in a subtle toast before turning back to his conversation with a purple belt.
By the time they left, Ashley felt a curious mix of emotions she couldn’t quite define, a sense of belonging to this new community, satisfaction at having pushed beyond their comfortable routine, and something else, an awareness that made her conscious of each step, each breath, each brush of Jacob’s hand against hers as they walked back to their car.
“That was actually really fun,” Jacob said, his voice slightly louder than usual, the four beers he’d consumed evident in his relaxed posture and easy smile. “Dan’s invited me to his Tuesday lunchtime coding meetup. Turns out he’s working on a data visualization project that’s pretty similar to what we’re doing at work.”
“That’s great,” Ashley said, grateful for the simple conversation. “I liked Liz. She’s… straightforward.”
Jacob laughed. “Is that what we’re calling it? She told Mike his triangle choke looked like, and I quote, ‘a constipated frog trying to do Pilates.’”
“Okay, brutally straightforward,” Ashley amended, smiling. “But she knows her stuff. And I get the sense she’s a good person to have in your corner.”
Later that night, lying beside Jacob in their darkened bedroom, Ashley replayed the evening in her mind, the conversations, the new friendships forming, the subtle dynamics at play. She thought about Liz’s warning regarding Carlos, the implied history of entanglements with female students.
It shouldn’t have surprised her. Carlos exuded the effortless confidence of a man accustomed to attention, to getting what he wanted. There was nothing overtly inappropriate about his behavior. He maintained the line between instructor and student, but there was an undercurrent of something else, an electricity that seemed to charge the air around him.
Jacob shifted beside her, his breathing already deepening toward sleep. She turned to look at him, at the familiar profile outlined in the dim light filtering through their curtains. She loved him. His kindness, his intelligence, his unwavering support of her ever-changing interests. Their life together was good, stable, filled with the comfortable certainties of shared history and mutual understanding.
So why did she find her thoughts drifting to Carlos’s brief touch on her shoulder, the intensity of his gaze across the bar, the way he moved with such absolute conviction?
It was natural, she told herself. Just a harmless fascination with someone so different from herself, from Jacob, a glimpse into a world of pure physical mastery, of instinct over intellect. Nothing more than that.
The sixth week brought rapid progression for Ashley and grudging improvement for Jacob. After Wednesday’s class, Carlos held her back for an extra fifteen minutes, showing her a more advanced version of the sweep they’d been drilling.
“You’re picking this up faster than most,” he said, his hand on her lower back guiding her through the correct hip movement. “But don’t get complacent. That’s when injuries happen.”
“I won’t,” she promised, hyper-aware of the pressure of his hand, the proximity of his body as he demonstrated the proper angle.
Jacob watched from the sidelines, his expression carefully neutral as he pretended to stretch. On the drive home, he was quiet until Ashley finally broke the silence.
“Everything okay?”
He glanced at her, then back at the road. “Just tired. Long day at work, then getting my ass handed to me.”
“You’re being too hard on yourself. You swept Mike today during sparring. I saw it.”
“Mike’s been training for all of two months longer than me,” Jacob said, a rare edge of bitterness in his voice. “Meanwhile, you’re getting private lessons from Carlos.”
“It wasn’t a private lesson,” Ashley said, stiffening slightly. “He was just showing me a detail on the technique we were already working on.”
Jacob sighed, rubbing a hand over his face. “I know. Sorry. I’m just tired and sore and feeling a bit… I don’t know. Inadequate, I guess.”
The vulnerability in his admission had Ashley feeling a mixture of guilt and tenderness. “Hey,” she said softly, placing her hand on his thigh. “There’s nothing inadequate about you. So what if I’m picking up certain movements faster? You’re still the same guy who can solve coding problems that make your whole team’s brain melt, who can recite entire passages from those sci-fi novels, who makes me laugh every single day.”
Jacob’s expression softened, one hand leaving the steering wheel to cover hers. “I know. I’m being stupid. It’s just… different, feeling like I’m not good at something you’re excelling at. We’ve never had that dynamic before.”
“Is it a problem? That I’m doing well?”
“No! God, no. I’m proud of you.” He squeezed her hand. “Really. I just need to get over my own ego and remember we’re not in competition with each other.”
As they pulled into their parking space, Ashley wondered if that was true. Something really had shifted between them, a subtle rebalancing of the relationship’s dynamics that neither had fully acknowledged. In their previous life, before Iron Grip, Jacob had always been the more accomplished one in many ways. More established in his career, more certain of his path. Ashley’s creative pursuits, while encouraged, had never quite matched his professional success. Now, for the first time, she was excelling in an area where he struggled, and the reversal, however minor in the grand scheme of things, had created a new tension.
That night, as they prepared dinner together, Jacob chopping vegetables while Ashley seasoned chicken for stir-fry, she found herself watching him with a new awareness, trying to reconcile the Jacob she’d always known with the Jacob she now saw struggling on the mats. There was something unexpectedly poignant about witnessing his vulnerability, his frustrated determination as he worked to improve at something that didn’t come naturally to him. It made her love him more in a way, this glimpse of his humanity, his imperfection.
And yet, alongside that tenderness ran another current, one that made her uncomfortable to examine too closely, a newfound awareness of physical power, of capability, of the primal hierarchy that existed on the mats, where intellectual achievements counted for nothing against the ability to control another’s body.
She pushed the thought aside, focusing on the simplicity of their evening, the comfortable routine of cooking together, eating at their small table, discussing plans for the weekend. This was real life, not the artificial environment of the gym, with its heightened intensity and arbitrary rankings. This was what mattered.
That night, as Jacob slept beside her, she found herself scrolling through Iron Grip Academy’s Instagram, pausing on a photo of Carlos demonstrating a technique on another instructor, the perfect alignment of his body, the controlled power evident even in a still image. Her thumb hovered over the like button for a moment before she closed the app and set her phone aside, telling herself she was just appreciating the technical aspects of the move. Nothing more.